A few months ago I started repeating a daily affirmation at bedtime with my daughter. I think it is an important part of each day.
All too early in life girls are told by society, either by media, other kids, or by adults (either intentionally or unintentionally) that they must fit in to a certain mold: act a certain way, look a certain way, or follow norms or rules that don’t apply to boys.
I am smart. I am strong. I can be anything I want to be. And I love myself!
As parents, we want what is best for our children. We try to control the environment they grow up in and everything they are exposed to. When Abby started preschool I realized that I wasn’t going to be around her at all times to make her feel better if another kid said something mean, to tell her she can when someone says she can’t, or to encourage her when she is feeling doubtful.
I want her to go out into the world armed with self-confidence and self-esteem. So, each night we say, “I am smart. I am strong. I can be anything I want to be. And I love myself.”
I want her to love herself. I want her to believe in her own intelligence, strength, self-worth, and her ability to follow her dreams and work hard to become whatever her heart desires.
She reminds me of our ritual if I happen to forget it at bedtime, which is good, because I too need to remember and believe the words… I am smart. I am strong. I can be anything I want to be. And I love myself.