I DECIDED TO CREATE THE MOMUMENTAL MOTHERS SERIES TO CELEBRATE WOMEN FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE. EACH OF THE WOMEN I WILL FEATURE ARE DIFFERENT, BUT THEY ARE ALL UNITED IN MOTHERHOOD.
Today I have an interview for you with Valerie. Welcome!
Valerie has a blog called MinnesotaMrsMom. Can you tell us more about yourself?
Hello, I live in the State of Minnesota with my handsome husband, and three children. I am a wife, a mom, and a stepmom. I currently work within a School District, working directly with children. I love seeing how much children can grow from what you teach them!
How old are your children and what grades are they in in school?
My stepdaughter is 13 (grade 8), and my two sons are 10 (grade 4) and 7 (grade 2).
What do you feel is your biggest struggle as a parent?
My biggest struggle being a parent is the just everyday life challenges. Every day brings up new challenges whether they are easy or hard to deal with. There are things that your children may bring up to you that you have to think before you speak to give them advice. Some advice you give them may bring a smile to their cute face or may bring sad tears that run down their face. Also, having a teenager is a whole different parenting role as well…! All I can say is you learn how to parent as you go…
Do you think it is possible for women to have it all (family/career/friends/hobbies or passions) and how are you able to find a work/life balance?
Of course it is possible for woman to have it all; however just like anyone else, you have to work hard in life to actually make it happen. Things can’t be just handed to you.
Being a parent is hard to have a work/life balance though. As your children get older, they start to get involved in extra curricular activities. If you have more than one child, most of the times, parents are split up between games and practices. Most of the days, you do not get a free day!
What your normal day like?
My normal day is never the same.
What do you think your parents did when you were growing up that helped you to become be a responsible and successful adult? Also, what do you wish your parents would have taught or given you that they didn’t?
Growing up, I did see my parents give each other hugs a lot. And that taught me that you need love in a marriage! However, my parents also fought a lot because they didn’t know how to communicate with each other. Unfortunately, my parents are now divorced. This has taught me a lot on life and being a parent because even though love is huge in a marriage, communication is actually the key! You need communication to be a successful wife and parent.
What is your favorite thing about being a parent? And conversely, what is your least favorite ?
My favorite thing about being a parent is seeing yourself in your children; whether its in sports, or eating habits or just everyday life.
My least favorite is seeing yourself in your children. HAHA. You finally get to see what your parents dealt with.
I know what you mean. I recently told my own mom that I realize now how annoying it is to argue with your own mini-me and that I’m sorry for all the times I must have done that to her!
How do you handle every day stressors?
If I am having a stressful day, I like to blow off steam by just strolling through retail stores and finding things that make me smile to get my mind off of whatever was bothering me. I don’t typically buy anything, it just helps me release steam. If I am at home, I like to go for walks by our lake and listen to the wildlife.
What are your tips for staying sane each morning as everyone gets ready for school and work, and, in the evening as the family gets ready for bedtime?
Coffee in the morning… and lots of it. At bedtime, no electronics after 8pm.
Oh, yes, I could never get by without coffee in the morning- especially because my kids are early birds who like to get up around 5:00 a.m!
What would your advice for a new mother be?
There is no correct way to parent. Everyone’s style is going to be different from yours. Do what you think is best for your lifestyle.
How is parenting or being a mother different than you may have thought it would be before you had kids?
I never thought I was going to be a stepmom. No one wakes up and says, I think I want to be a stepmom when I grow up. Being a stepmom has its own challenges, however, I would never give up my role of being a stepmom to my awesome stepdaughter ever! We have a very special bond!
Being a wife and a mom is the best thing I have ever done for myself! I always imagined myself being a parent. I love how my life is turning out!
What do you think makes you and your story unique from other mothers you may know?
I live in a blended family! I have known my step-daughter since the day she was born. She knows of no other person in her dad’s life but me. (Her bio-mom and my husband were never married; only dated) Living in a blended family is very unique and it can be very complicated. However, I do not regret choosing this life.
Doesn’t she have such a beautiful family? Keep it up, mama, you’re doing great! And thank you for allowing me to interview you!
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